“mazie i have a friend whos always putting me down and forcing me into stressful situations and its at the point that im getting frustrated cuz i dont want to hurt their feelings by standing up for myself. what do i do? -pushoverpete”
Sometimes it is super difficult to put yourself before a friend because some people just cannot say no and this is not uncommon. The most important thing that you need to remember is that you have to be comfortable and on the same level in any friendship or relationship. If one person is pushing you into stressful situations and you aren’t standing up for yourself, yes it keeps your friend content but inside you will slowly get angrier and angrier and it will eventually turn into resentment.
The most important thing that you need to do in this situation is you need to take a step back and evaluate the friendship. Ask yourself: “What is this friendship contributing to my life?” “What would my life be like without this friend?” If the answer for the first question is negative and the second answer is positive, you might want to think about whether or not this friendship should progress any further. If it is the opposite (positive and then negative) you really need to take that step and let that friend know that some of the things they are making you do or saying to you, are making you feel bad about yourself and are stressing you out.
8/10 times the friend will take this to heart and respect that you trusted them enough to talk to them about it, but the other 2/10 times the friend might not think they need to change, and it is in this case that you will know that you most likely need to back away slowly… (or run?)
In the end, you are the one you see every single morning and every single night, and you are the one you need to care about most in situations like this. You are important and relevant and if your friend can’t respect that, than that friend isn’t worth your time. A friend should always want you to do well, and feel loved and cared for, not the opposite.
I hope this helps you out, (not so pushover)Pete!
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Thanks a handful!